23 May 2009

Puppy love

Oh, to be a fly on the wall.

This is what I witnessed when I chaperoned Nate's class on their field trip to This Is the Place state park. I won't say my jaw didn't drop because I did have the presence of mind to snap a shot before pulling him away. I shouldn't have been surprised. This is a kid who's love language is touch. He loves hugs and rubs.

Several months ago as I was going through his backpack, I came across a little note that was apparently left in his cubby: "Dear Nathen, You are sweet. From Alyssa." He insists that they don't love each other, just like. That's good.

Erik, listening in on our conversation, voluntarily added that he kind of likes Bethany, a girl in his class and also in our ward.

Kiersten then added that she was the target of Josh's admiration this week. I guess he changes a lot. He told her he thought she was cute with her hair down (this is a girl who likes ponytails).

I wonder what other information might come my way if I'm quiet enough and just listen.

13 May 2009

50 random things about me and a few more

This was something that was being circulated on Facebook for awhile. It was really write 25 random things about you at that moment. I thought I'd give it some time to see what I came up. I was surprised at some of the things I remembered.
  1. I detest leftovers. Rarely do I ever eat them. I'm thankful Tyler doesn't mind cleaning them up for me.
  2. I have never used an automatic car wash.
  3. I am in my dad's camp.
  4. I've scuba dived once and hated it. I felt very claustrophobic.
  5. My little brother hit me on the head with a hammer. Luckily I only need 2 stitches, but now have a cowlick there.
  6. I love my fireplace.
  7. I love chocolate milk and toast. It's what I live on.
  8. I dislike shopping in any form.
  9. On my left little toe is a toenail so small it looks like there isn't one. Lucky for me I only have to paint 4 out of the 5.
  10. I love, love to vacuum.
  11. Going along with number 10, I love love to mow the lawn. It must be the straight lines I'm attracted to. I get apprehensive when Tyler mows because he tends to go circular or weaves.
  12. I love to be outside in any season but winter . . . working in my yard, camping, playing. I am an outdoor girl.
  13. But I don't particularly like water. I'll wade, but swimming is not my thing.
  14. It must be because when you get out you're cold and I really don't like being cold. Therefore I don't like winter.
  15. I wore braces for 3 1/2 years and a headgear for 3 1/2 weeks. I refused to wear it any longer.
  16. We always had a dog when I was a kid. Most of them were yellow labs named Lady.
  17. I teach my kids piano.
  18. I've rappelled.
  19. I was a speaker at my high school graduation. I think I spoke about being the best person you could be.
  20. I enjoy playing ping pong and tennis. Actually I've never played a real game of tennis, but I enjoy hitting the ball and serving it.
  21. I once spent a Saturday and took a pre-LSAT test (law school entrance exam) with Tyler just to see how we'd do. I scored in the 48th percentile.
  22. I don't like being late. It makes me antsy.
  23. I've never had a broken bone, lots of jammed fingers from basketball and sprained ankles, but never a broken bone.
  24. I enjoy baking, not necessarily cooking. Maybe because I love the dough more than the finished product. Growing up we were a family who would eat half the dough before baking. I even have a stash of cookie dough in my freezer for such urges.
  25. I am the oldest in my family of six siblings.
  26. As I was growing up, my parents often referred to me as a hermit because I spent so much time in my room, usually reading. I love to read. I can be in the middle of lots of books and will usually finish them all about the same time and then start over on a whole new set.
  27. In reference to #26, I would consider myself an introvert, however I derive my energy from being around other people. I'll come home from a meeting or an activity ready to tell Tyler all about it. I often don't go to sleep for awhile afterwards.
  28. I love pepper, especially on fried eggs and salads.
  29. I play the piano, have played the organ, and am trying the violin.
  30. I cleaned houses to put myself through college.
  31. I had mono when I was in 2nd grade.
  32. I was the 6th grade chess champion.
  33. I eat ice cream just about every night.
  34. My favorite dessert is brownies with ice cream and hot fudge.
  35. I love to eat out but rarely ever get dessert.
  36. I usually eat some form of chocolate every day. I try to keep peanut M&Ms around, but chocolate chips do in a pinch.
  37. I don't like to scrapbook, but now that I've started I feel like I must finish.
  38. I was on the seminary council in high school.
  39. In college I once accepted a date from a 35-year-old man with a mustache, but ditched him when he came to pick me up. I had no way to contact him to tell him I was backing out. WHAT WAS MY 20-YEAR-OLD SELF THINKING?
  40. I ran my first 5K when I was 32.
  41. Once my date in college took me flying and let me fly the plane for just a moment.
  42. I'd rather eat birthday pie over birthday cake.
  43. My favorite pies are chocolate and banana cream.
  44. When I was 14 or 15 I drove a tractor up our willow tree. I thought it was going to tip over on top of me for sure.
  45. I've been to Lake Powell many times . . . for the fishing (striped bass).
  46. I was a bald baby and a thumb sucker until I woke up one day and decided on my own not to suck it any more.
  47. I rarely make it through an entire movie. I tend to fall asleep.
  48. Basketball is my number one sport. I played church ball, played my sophomore year of high school and played co-ed intramural basketball in college.
  49. I was fired from a job after one day and was never so happy about it.
  50. My passport has taken me to Ireland, England, and South Korea.
  51. My first airplane ride was on my honeymoon to Seattle. The plane ride was the highlight of the trip.
  52. I've been river rafting down the Snake River when I was 12 years old.
  53. I've had a child with cancer.
  54. I've had a child with a cleft in the uvula (the little hanging thing in the back of your throat).
  55. I detest wrapping presents. They turn out so badly I'm glad I can blame my kids for how ugly they look.
  56. I love raspberries and peas, especially eaten right out of the garden.
  57. Ty was my first kiss and even then it was when I had fallen asleep during a movie (refer to #47). I didn't understand what all the hype was about and even told a roommate I didn't care if we ever did that again. It's much better now.
  58. My first concert was Sawyer Brown. I've since been to Steve Miller Band, Celine Dion, Counting Crows, Neil Diamond (I'm raising 3rd generation Neil Diamond fans), Jon Schmidt, and a U2 cover band that sounded like the real thing (I won't say "better than the real thing").
  59. I had my dad for a seminary teacher and really learned a lot about the Book of Mormon. Since I was also the only one who really played the piano, I quickly learned how to play as an accompanist. That was rather painful.
  60. I've shot a .22 and a shotgun only once and have been snow skiing only twice in my life.
  61. My first "real" car that I paid for was a red 1991 Geo Prism. That car would have gone forever and ever. But when Ty got a company car we had to part with it. I would buy another one in a heartbeat.
  62. I grew up listening to FM100 and win "Name that Tune" every time when we are in the car listening to FM106.
  63. I am a weather watcher. I have to know what the weather is going to be like for the next few days so I can plan my gardening, shopping, etc. I plan my days around the weather.
  64. I don't own a cell phone.
  65. I like the smell of gasoline and laughing gas at the dentist.

07 May 2009

Honeybirds

Ash's name for hummingbirds.

I know I should not let her start school without correcting her.
But.
I just can't.

Nathan tried the other day to tell her they were called hummingbirds, not honeybirds. She refused to believe him. And she refused to call them anything else.

This is one thing I want to hold onto before she's no longer my baby.

03 May 2009

Turn ye even to me with all your heart, and with fasting

One of my favorite sessions at Women's Conference was a class on fasting by Sister Kathleen Perrin. Fasting is one of the vices in my life. I like food too much and it's hard to go without. I read a biography on Ardeth Kapp, and in it she tells how once a week she would fast. I thought about doing it because in doing it I know there is tremendous power. But after a couple of times life crept up on me and I am again doing just the monthly fast that we as Latter-day Saints do.

How to Teach Children about Fasting
1. Teach by example
2. Teach the joy of sacrifice
3. Fast with a family purpose
4. Teach about the needy
5. Serve simple meals
6. Give up favorite foods
7. Give up snacks at church (for little ones)
8. Base fasting time on age

I've struggled in the past knowing how to teach my kids, especially when it's not something I really enjoy myself. But I came up with a couple of traditions to help remember that it's Fast Sunday and to enjoy the sabbath, not just endure.

1. We make it pizza night the night before, complete with cinnamon breadsticks. I always began fasting as a child the following morning, and it was hard to begin a fast that way when you're already hungry. This way we begin our fast with a meal and a prayer where ideally we discuss what or who we could fast for. It doesn't always happen that way but it's how I envision it.

2. Fast Sunday meal is always a roast and potatoes. Awhile ago we discovered that cross-rib roasts are soooo good cooked in the crock pot for 8 to 10 hours. So Fast Sunday morning I get up and put the roast in and then we eat later in the day, not right after church. It helps extend the fast a little longer. So far my kids have not complained about not eating immediately after church. It was only a couple of years ago that I fasted for an entire 24 hours. And each time gets a little easier.

3. This Sunday is also our journal Sunday. I want my kids to be journal writers and record their feelings and happenings in their lives. I know they'll appreciate it later when they are older and will be glad they've written. To help facilitate this we make a treat to be eaten Sunday evening AFTER they've written in their journal. Erik allowed me to read his journal today and it was the typical I did this today and we did that, and I decided I want to help with their writing by giving them assignments once in awhile to write on a particular subject.

Why We Feel Our Fast Is Not Answered
1. We cannot fast and pray away someone's agency. As much as we would like to, especially when we see someone making wrong choices, it just isn't in the Lord's plan. We should instead fast and pray to understand the Lord's will; to change the things we can change; and for strength to face challenges, not for them to be removed.

2. We do not understand the Lord's timetable. Sister Perrin gave an example of a family who fasted and prayed for their eldest daughter who was not yet married, who had been on a mission, earned her doctorate, and was teaching college classes. She did end up getting married, but much later in life to a student in one of her classes who was quite a bit younger. Some things just don't happen when we'd like and we have to have the patience and faith to accept that. The Lord is in charge!

3. We don't recognize the answer.
4. We are fasting for what we want, not for what the Lord wants for us.

5. We fail to see the many ways in which we have been blessed. Sometimes fasting should be just for the bounteous blessings God has given us.

6. We don't receive the answer we expect. Another story was told of a young woman who suffered through her teenage years with migraine headaches. Again the family fasted and prayed and thought they were not getting an answer. In her early 20s the prognosis came that one of her kidneys was not functioning and had not been since she was very little and it would need to be removed. After the removal of the kidney the headaches stopped. It was definitely not an answer the family expected.

The Lord answers our prayers more so when we fast, and prayer coupled with fasting is the way to understand Heavenly Father's will for us.

30 April 2009

I love Ty because . . .

he got up BEFORE me to fix me an egg mcmuffin to feed me physically before I left early for BYU Women's Conference to be fed spiritually. One, he never gets up before me. Two, he rarely cooks. He even made the kids breakfast. I was touched by his thoughfulness. He spoke my love language whether he knew it or not.

26 April 2009

Am I wise? Not this week

Family home evening kind of fell by the wayside last week. Instead of our usual meet-in-the-living-room-for-a-lesson we had the kids weed while we threw mulch around the yard. Our neighbor across the street came to check his mail and said something about FHE. I replied with what a great family home evening where you have your kids work and don't have to prepare a lesson.

Later in the week I was preparing my sharing time and researching on LDS.org when I came across a talk President Eyring gave in 1999 and read a quote that struck me with great force and immediately I felt sorry about the comments I had made to my neighbor.
A wise parent would never miss a chance to gather children together to learn of the doctrine of Jesus Christ. Such moments are so rare in comparison with the efforts of the enemy. For every hour the power of doctrine is introduced into a child’s life, there may be hundreds of hours of messages and images denying or ignoring the saving truths.
The question should not be whether we are too tired to prepare to teach doctrine or whether it would be better to draw a child closer by just having fun or whether the child is beginning to think that we preach too much. The question must be, “With so little time and so few opportunities, what words of doctrine from me will fortify them against the attacks on their faith which are sure to come?” The words you speak today may be the ones they remember. And today will soon be gone.
The mulch would wait but my children are growing and won't be around forever. I should and need to take every opportunity to teach them the gospel. I don't negate that family home evening can't be an evening of teaching children to work or playing games. Activities that bring the family together and create memories are very important. But it was my attitude that needed to change. I was worried more about getting the mulch on our flowerbeds and "counting" that as FHE than I was about what saving truth could be taught.

The very next day after reading Elder Eyring's talk I picked up the Ensign I've neglected for a month. I sat stunned as I read the title of the monthly message by none other than Elder Eyring, Teaching True Doctrine. This was the same article I had just read the day before not knowing it was this month's monthly Ensign message.

You don't need to knock me over the head twice. I got it. I vowed that day to take advantage of every teaching opportunity because really I don't have a lot of time.

16 April 2009

Passport stamp #2 - Seoul, South Korea

My friend across the street now calls me a world traveler. Maybe I am. I told Tyler the other night that the world doesn't seem so big anymore. Nor so scary. I feel like I could get around places . . . as long as the signs had a little hint of English.

I first have to offer my thanks to Mr. Kim Jong-il, that crazy North Korean dictator (or Dear Leader as his countrymen refer to him).
KAMSAMNIDA!
Without his crazy missile, er . . . satellite launch, an entire day in Seoul would have been lost to San Francisco's airport. Our initial flight out of Salt Lake
was delayed an hour because of snow AND we only had that hour between connecting flights in San Fran. I offered up a prayer somewhere over Nevada that we would make our overnight flight. If we didn't, the next flight out wasn't until 6 am the next morning. I faithfully watched the clock as my faith waned. I KNEW we would be looking for somewhere to sleep. Our plane touched down with only ten minutes until the next departed. When we finally retrieved our gate-checked luggage, it was a sprint through the airport, and as we rounded the corner and saw the waiting area empty, Ty's faith faltered. But ahead I could see the doors were still open and ticket counter accepting boarding passes. I never felt so relieved to be sitting on a plane, knowing our plans were still intact. We were almost the last two people on. Shortly after settling in the captain came over the PA to explain how they were INTENTIONALLY delaying the flight 15 minutes to ensure we would not be flying close to North Korea during the window of time they might launch a "satellite." He was also changing the flight path since the previous one would have taken us directly over North Korea. We had a very crazy time getting to Korea, but what a fantastic week to experience another culture.

Jet lag wasn't too bad. By the time we got to our hotel, it was about 9pm and we were ready for bed. Although I continually awoke throughout the night, we still slept decently on VERY HARD beds. The EXTRA SOFT big pillows made up for the bed. That first night I woke up about 4:30 to the sound of a gong. It took me several minutes but I realized it must be the gong across the street at the Buddhist temple. And every morning that was our wakeup call.


Our agenda really consisted of visiting places Ty had been as a missionary some 17 years ago. Sunday took us to the Seoul Temple which is quite small on the outside, maybe not quite bigger than a church building. Most of the temple is tucked away underneath. When we exited the subway we took off in some direction, walking down little alleys and side streets, looking for familiarity, trying to find a hill that Ty recalls the temple being on. Well, Seoul is all hills and valleys. It reminded me a lot of San Francisco. Sometimes I even mentioned that the alley we were walking in looked like a dead end. Tyler's response was "there are no dead ends." And he was right. You might have to squeeze between a fence and a building but it led somewhere. At one point we spotted the steeples and knew we were headed in the right direction. But then we lost sight and didn't see them for awhile. It wasn't until we were headed down a street and I was looking up for street signs. Angel Moroni stood out like a shining beacon among a sea of buildings. Ty was right again. The temple is on a hill, but it doesn't captivate attention. Our joke that day was that the Angel Moroni guided us in. We kept our eyes on him and he eventually brought us to the temple.
Sunday also included a visit to the old ward. Tyler recognized a few faces, even his mission president he had for the concluding 2 months of his mission. It was fast and testimony meeting. I didn't understand a thing, but how refreshing to know that I could go halfway around the world and the gospel was the same. The church was still the same. The sacrament was exactly how it is at home. The songs were the same. The spirit was still as strong.

In our wanderings we also happened upon the post office Ty used to send mail. Also, dressed in our Sunday finery, we passed a Korean woman a street over from the temple who was explaining to her friend that we were "Mormon".
One of the items on our agenda was the DMZ, or Demilitarized Zone. I love history and that area has such history behind it. We even went so far as to book reservations but hadn't paid. Tyler didn't feel comfortable going, and I didn't want to force the issue. Maybe if it was a different week and North Korea hadn't just experimented with a missile launch. Instead we took the subway as far north as you could go to Uijeongbu, the last area Tyler served in. We didn't find the exact house he lived in but this was close enough. We went hiking up the mountain and discovered old Korean War trenches and remnants of old war huts.


We visited palaces and Buddhist temples, shopped, and hiked a lot. I wish I had thought to bring my pedometer just to see how much we walked. We often left by 7am and didn't return until 9:30pm with aching feet and sore leg muscles.



I would have to say the highlight of the trip was the hike we took up Namsan Mountain.
Ty would tell me that sentence is redundant since san means mountain. Namsan literally translates as south mountain. It's a very high hill in the middle of Seoul with 10,000 steps to the top. At least it felt that way. Coming down my legs were Jell-O; I seriously was afraid they would give out on me. When we finally summited, this was the view:
Lots of little Korean children taking a field trip (I suspect they took the cable car to the top instead of climbing). We sat and observed and made some friends:
They relished the opportunity to practice their English with "Hi," and "What's your name?" After our brief conversation they proceeded to roll out their mats, take off their shoes, sit on their mats, and pull out their lunches to eat. One little boy even offered Ty a piece of a sushi roll and was quickly scolded I'm sure for talking to strangers. In the end as we were leaving, they all told us bye and "see you next time." I think Ty relished the opportunity practice his Korean. He was surprised at how quickly it came back, and I think most people were surprised at his knowledge of Korean.

We sampled authentic bulgogi and I was introduced to hoddeok, a scone or pancake with a cinnamon filling. These you can buy from the street vendors HOT, and they are so good. I will admit that by Thursday afternoon when we walked through the huge underground mall connecting our hotel to the subway station, my eyes spotted Burger King and nothing sounded better right then than a whopper and fries with lots of salt. And oh did it taste good. I didn't even think of all the calories and fat grams my body had just consumed.

Spring is a beautiful time in Korea because of all the cherry, magnolia, and dogwood in bloom. However, it is also very smoggy due to "Yellow Dust" that blows in from the desertification of the Gobi Desert in China. I would love to visit again but later in the year to see the contrast.
Observations I had while in South Korea:
  • There aren't a lot of benches or places to sit and rest in Korea and often resorted to sitting on the curb to rest our wearied feet.

  • You don't see a lot of fat people. They walk too much and even have exercise parks with ellipticals and weights on their hikes.
  • I felt very safe everywhere. There were several underground tunnels we passed through to get to the other side. Neither of us would have ventured through them in the states. You just didn't know who would be waiting for you. Not in Korea.

  • The men wear dark suites and white shirts and ties. The women wear high heels. Even hiking up a mountain which is a very popular pastime.

  • You are never alone.

  • Their toilets are not like ours. Thankfully our hotel had a normal toilet. I refused to use one of these:
  • When they say thank you (kamsamnida) they will bow their head slightly. That was the only word I dared to utter. Even hello was too long for me to try and pronounce correctly.

  • A garbage can was very hard to find. And if we did, it was most likely filled to overflowing.

  • The Koreans take their handicap areas very seriously. After a long day walking and hiking my feet screamed for some rest. That didn't often come on the subway that was very packed. I did however notice that at the back were seats reserved for the handicap, elderly, pregnant women, or women with children. Several times I took a seat if no one was sitting there, but soon learned that is taboo. Just like we don't take the handicap parking if no one is parked there, they don't sit in those seats just because no one is sitting there.
Another favorite moment occurred before we even left the Salt Lake airport. As I waited to board our plane, I noticed a couple of young boys maybe 5 or 6 years old approach the Korean girl that was obviously going home to Korea. They asked her if she spoke Chinese which she did. Tyler says this is uncommon. Most Koreans know Korean and English. Then one little boy said, "I can speak Chinese too . . . Hola!" We began to board the plane and as the boys and Korean girl parted company, she told them "Adios."

So adios to a very exciting, enlightening trip. I can't wait to go back.